My friend just moved away.

[alyssabff]

Yesterday, My friend took a plane to Holland and then a week later she's going to go to her new boarding school in England. I've never actually had a friend move away so It's already started to feel weird not seeing her until december.

Have you guys ever dealt with a friend going away?

[beermonster256]

Yeah one of my mates from school moved to Houston, TX, and I haven't seen him since (it's now a good 8 years later). I live in Scotland so it made it a bit difficult and now we just kinda lost touch. It sucks, but people come and go in your life all the time.

[Raxo]

My friend went to college in Boston and I only got to see him during the holidays. It was weird because before that I used to see him everyday and after that we just weren't the same kinds of friends anymore.

[Far]

6 or 7 of my very close friends are leaving for school at the end of the week. I have no idea what I'm going to do. Eventually I'll be moving to the city they are going to but it's going to be a mighty boring few months.

[alyssabff]

Plus, my boyfriend is going to move to Canada in 7 days, so I have NO idea how I'm going to handle that.

[Couch]

I moved once, and had to leave all my friends behind. I haven't heard from them since, which sucks, but you make new friends, and life goes on.

[Mr Anorexia]

A lot of my friends end up moving, my best friend from when I was little moved away in 5th grade, but we still kept touch and most summers together until a few years ago.

One of my close friends may be moving soon, though =\

Edit: A lot of my friends are leaving for school within this week.

[WookieRage]

I moved three times before I came here, so I've never had real friends until now...I feel your pain. My best friend moved to New York at the end of last school year, but I still talk to him every day; it isn't hard to keep in touch with friends if they really mean something to you. Just keep yourself busy, and possibly try to join a club, take up a cause, or just try something new. You'll meet people and maybe even develop some sort of awesome new talent/interest.

[Venom]

What I did:

Download a lot of music
Find one or more tv series to watch
Watch movies
Play games
Do photography
Learn an instrument
Get a car (You're gonna need the freedom and the ability to get away from the home)

[acy_linn]

Well, all my friends are leaving to college already. I am stuck in southern Cali for one more month. I think this month is gonna be a time to reflect on things. Not to mention, I am going be stuck at home since everybody is leaving. :(

[Tricky_The_Clown]

Yeah, I had a two friends (brothers) move away. They're fairly close though, half hour drive or so. So I see them once in awhile.

[Rebecca.]

I know it's not easy now, but everyone is going to be dealing with this kind of stuff for the rest of their lives. Eventually you'll just get used to it. For now, keep yourself busy & distracted.

[xJesusx]

I was best friends with this kid when we were younger and she moved away. last year, years after she left, she came back. It is kind of weird seeing her in the hall at school because we used to be so close and now we don't talk, only wave every now and then. In 8th grade my best friend moved to Delaware, we talked for a while, then we just kind of lost touch.

[AntiAnti]

I moved from England to Hong Kong, but I was pretty young. Still, I made some friends.
I left Hong Kong after a few years to come back here in England. I was still pretty young. I cried on the plane journey (bless me!).
I saw my old friends, but they didn't talk to me. They didn't like me anymore - that hurt as a kid.

But yeah, as everyone else said, life goes on, I guess.

[liserlikescheese]

I have had 2 best friends move away. One came back but now we don't get along.
I have another friend that moved to Scotland yesterday.

[Chardon07]

My best friend moved down to georgia back in 10th grade. ( graduated high school this year ) Ive known him since the 1st grade. i talk to him on aim but thats it. he might come back to ohio soon so maybe we will meet up

[Louisiana 1-8]

My best friend started smoking pot, drinking and trying to play guitar. I haven't seen him for like, a year. I heard he got in trouble with the cops but I haven't heard anything . . .

[gtrst7711]

I'm moving away from my friends. Does that count?

Also, I had a friend move away. He never told me, until I called him one day to see what he was doing, then he told me he was in Arizona. He came to my grad party this summer, though. I hadn't seen him in ages.

[Laced Oysters]

Well, he didn't move but he might as well of.
This guy was my best friend. We did everything together. Jeffery was THE perfect friend.

Then, we just stopped talking.
I don't know why.
I haven't seen him in years.

[Ninja 2.0]

Masturbate. A lot.
But seriously,
Just remeber the time you had with him/her and cherish it forever. Don't be afraid to remeber but also dont be afraid to let go

[mitch+]

My girlfriend is going to university 2 hours south of where I am and its total shit. We practically live together we see each other so much and I know 2 hours isnt THAT much, but it will be quite the load on our relationship. Its hard to maintain trust when there are just so many fucking temptations associated with university. Its going to be a shitty year, and I think I've been in a shitty mood for a while. Today I told this girl I hate that I would be apathetic if I would never have to see her face again haha. Any ideas from anyone on how to maintain trustworthiness and a healthy relationship with only weekend visits and such? I could use a hand for once.

[JonC]

Wow, after reading about all of your best/close friends moving away, or you moving away from them, it makes me feel fortunate that I've had a friend of 11, going on 12, years now. If he was out of my life, I do not know what the fuck I would do.

Knowing this about you and your (former?) friends, make me sad.

[Razzmatazz13]

Once we went into college, all of my friends moved into their respective college towns. We all sort of lost touch but we get together every few months now. Meet new people and try to keep in touch with your old friend as much as you can.

(Mitch, the only thing you can do is trust each other. Sounds like crap advice but I've done almost the same thing before. Keep in contact with each other and spend as much time together on the weekends as possible.)

[mitch+]

Thanks Razz. Actually thats some great advice and I'd have to agree.

[Spoons]

I've moved away from all my friends a few years ago, I occasionally talk to them but I haven't seen any of them in at least a year....

:(

[Cristo]

When you're an international kid like me and you've moved school more than you count you get used to it.

The longest I've ever known a person is 4 years, and usually I'm the one who moves away but it has happened to me a lot that a friend moves away and I lose touch. But as I said I don't know them for that long so I'm usually indifferent when they move away, you just have to move on and meet new people. I realise it must be a lot harder for you guys because most of you have probably lived in the same town or city, if not house, your entire life with the same friends etc. but the only advice I can give you is just not too be too sad, face facts and try to make new friends.

And if you are the one moving away let me give you some advice. When you come to this new place, school whatever people aren't going to come up to the new kid and want to be your friend, they won't care. YOU have to go up to them, you have make the effort, you have to be self-confident enough and able to adapt to this new situation and then they'll accept you into their group. Usually for me, after the first 2 weeks in a school I'll have gotten my bearings and gotten into a "click" or whatever you call it.

Anyways, I'm sorry for you guys it must be tough. Don't count on staying in touch with each other though it usually doesn't work. It hasn't ever for me. You and your friend turn your attention to your (new) friends etc. and since you don't see the person physically it isn't easy. But maybe it's different for you since most of the people who move still live in the States where for me I or they move to a completely different country.

[AidanC]

My friend moved from NH to Florida this year. We still talk via AIM and stuff, but it's kinda weird not seeing her at all

[The Fetus]

I've had a lot of my friends move away. My buddy Matt moved when I was in seventh grade, and God only nows where he's at now. My friend Mikayla and I are supposed to hang out and she just moved to Florida, but she's moving back or something.

[Con-Con]

My best friend moved school when i was really young and he went to the same second level school as me but we didn't seem to have the same interests

But life goes on and you get new friends:smile:

[teh_kyle00]

*Sigh One of the basic and most common things ever. Truth is, most Middle school friends don't last through High School, and most high school friendships don't make it through college. If you've had a friend almost your entire life, elementary through college and they're still your friend, don't take them for granted because I'm not saying it's impossible to have a friend that long, it's just a vast minority. But life goes on, you get new friends and later reflect on what that friendship could've been...

[MistyTehMoose]

I was always the one leaving. I never stuck around for very long wherever I was cause my mother was just unreliable that way. So I never really made any good friends until I move in with my dad.

[Revocracy]

I know what you´re going through.
My girlfriend moved to Canada Saturday.When she told me i thought it was going to be alright, That i´d move on you know but dam These last days i´ve been feeling like shit.
I don´t know what to do because She´s not that easy to forget.

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[Silverpaperplate]

EDIT: Awh shit