Very disturbed by my husbands internet habits?

[Jewy]

My husband and I have been married for 7 years and have what I thought to be a healthy marriage. We share a computer and while we have separate accounts one day he left for work without logging off and my curiosity got the better of me.

There were literally hundreds of hits for various porn sites in his history, this in itself does not bother me. He had already admitted he watches porn from time to time and I know that virtually all men do it.
What bothered me were extensive and frankly CREEPY posts he had made on a pornography messageboard. He has over 4000 posts so it was impossible to peruse them all but among the ones that stood out were (Warning, very graphic and disturbing, I would almost recommend not reading them and taking my word for it that they are as disturbing as possible)



What has always bugged me about porn is the facade most girls in porn are able to maintain while in performance mode. The only thing that ever gets me off is those moments of slight hesitation when they're asked if theyre a worthless whore and you see that split second frown or look of pain in their eyes before they catch themselves and go "yep, Im a stupid **** who is starving for ***!...where? everywhere on my face my *** my *****, ive been dreaming about *** all day!"

I would get off so much harder to this girl crying herself to sleep each night than any of her scenes. I would love to be able to show a girl old yearbook photos of herself and vids of school plays "what a pretty princess you were, who knew that princess would grow up to be a worthless whore!", You look so happy in these photos, like someone with a soul, what happened?

If I ever direct porn I will work as hard as I can to break through the wall porn girls put up to stay sane, who the **** is willing to sacrifice their dignity like this? I'd ******* kill myself if you were my daughter. Make them scream "I have no soul I have no soul! What happened to the little girl I used to be, I could have done something with my life! my scenes will be known for all the emotional pain a girl is trying to suppress coming out in a moan of pure existential despair as I laugh my *** off.

I would love to pretend to care about a pornstars self esteem and true self, find out she always wanted to be an artist and sign her up for an art class. "off to my art class, look out picasso!!! :)" she'd twitter but when she shows up her class is 12 sketchy guys and I'm wearing a cartoonish artists outfit with an oversized hat and salvadore dali mustache. She'd appraise the situation and her face would start to quiver and I'd throw 2k at her feet and tell her to start sucking.


Does scat porn exist with high production values? And am I the only guy who jerked off to 2 girls 1 cup? Whats with the stigma around scat porn I mean WTF??????? I think scat porn could be hot if it was shot in a glossy vivid video style, most of the stuff Ive watched has been depressing 2 girls one cup stuff that looks like it was shot in a self storage locker, it also seems to have a gross consistency like they made them take laxatives and stool softeners beforehand. Id love to watch a cutie like Lexi Belle take a nice big natural ****, one they have to struggle with at first but then orgasmically pushes out, watching the spinchter and anus move of their own beautiful accord can be very erotic

I think it could be really hot if its done in a silly way, like if they sang songs "taking a poop, takin a poop, wouldja like a scoop? Im takin a poop!" and they were doing the twist as they ****, Ive been so desensitized to porn that scat is the final frontier and Ive been disappointed at what Ive found so far, scat porn should be about the joy of shitting not degrading women Imagine a cutie pie pornstar like doing this and giggling, Im talking Silly scat, not depressing low production values desperate scat porn. They could drink lots of food coloring so its bright neon colors

For those that object how is that different from letting random strangers ejaculate on your face? Its just a natural body function that you're letting people film.

120 days of sodom by the Marquis de Sade is full of scat themed erotica and it is a classic on the level of Great Expectations.

For me the hottest scat porn would be if they really had to struggle cause it was so big and hard, the sort of **** that causes mild bleeding from the capillaries on the anus.


This man is not my husband, and I am frankly afraid to be in the same house as him. Should I confront him with this? I dont think I can just pretend this never happened, I really think he needs psychological help, there is a deepseated hatred of women here

Additional Details
This is probably relevant too, we had a russian foreign exchange student live with us 2 years ago who accused my husband of sexual harrassment (peeking on her in the shower, giving her aclohol before trying to seduce her) At the time I thought she was crazy and my gentle husband would never do something like that.

My husband is a psychiatrist and convinced me she had bipolar disorder and an attention seeking personality, she was sent back to her country and I never once doubted my husband. After seeing his dark side I now have serious doubts

tldr version; husband likes degrading women and scat porn and thinks regular porn should have colorful pissing and shit scenes.

[Gilligan]

Why did you even bother posting the whole thing?

[Gilligan]

I guarantee nobody else is going to read that.

[Jewy]

because you know SOMEONE read the "better nate and lever joke"

[Clark]

i am ashamed to admit that i actually read that

[Gilligan]

Well I read that one because it was a good story with a good moral lesson. Plus a joke.

[Jewy]

and this is yahoo answers

[Gilligan]

and you're jewish.

[WoeGuy]

i read them

[Jewy]

and you're jewish.

and youre semen

[Gilligan]

I am :smug:

[pika]

Don't worry jewy, I read it all :shobon:

[El Zilcho]

What were the responses to this?

[JoshE]

i read it all and it was hilariously disturbing... i mean, hes a shrink...

[SourChicken]

That first post makes no fucking sense

[SourChicken]

What has always bugged me about porn is the facade most girls in porn are able to maintain while in performance mode. The only thing that ever gets me off is those moments of slight hesitation when they're asked if theyre a worthless whore and you see that split second frown or look of pain in their eyes before they catch themselves and go "yep, Im a stupid **** who is starving for ***!...where? everywhere on my face my *** my *****, ive been dreaming about *** all day!"

[puce]

cunt* cum* cum* boobs*? cum*

[SourChicken]

Not just that, the entire post literally makes no sense

[Jewy]

cunt* cum* cum* boobs*? cum*

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[Jewy]

why not

[Tyler_Legrand]

tldr version; husband likes degrading women and scat porn

scat porn should be about the joy of shitting not degrading women

[Dodger]

that will be most of our wives in about 10 years

thanks for the heads up
adding security features now

[Jackoff Shitler]

ah the joy of shitting

[Jackoff Shitler]

all in all, the fecal is one of humanities most proudful manifestations

[Gilligan]

scat porn ruins everything for everyone.

[Jackoff Shitler]

that will be most of our wives in about 10 years

thanks for the heads up
adding security features now
fuck if only i had firefox right about that time during my second marriage

[Jackoff Shitler]

you kids nowadays with your private web surfing and your cache clearing browsers

[Tyler_Legrand]

I can honestly say I would proudly share all my private moments with my significant other

but not my parents

[Tyler_Legrand]

Except for that one incident

[Tweek]

that chick is in denial of her own true feelings
i didnt see and hatred of women there
more like an indifference to humans in general
and why the fuck not, porn is about self gratification and it is better if the stupid skanks cry

[Tweek]

i'm not into scat but i can see where he is coming from for the rest of it

[opn4bzns]

he sounds like he'd be a max hardcore fan

[opn4bzns]

that chick is in denial of her own true feelings
i didnt see and hatred of women there
more like an indifference to humans in general
and why the fuck not, porn is about self gratification and it is better if the stupid skanks cry

clearly the only sort of self gratification is abusing women, he sounds like a pinnacle of humanity

[Tweek]

meh i read it more as abusing them because they are in porn, not because they are women

[Dodger]

I sure wouldn't want to watch a porno in which the guy is being degraded though

[opn4bzns]

yeah, but he's still a misogynist. he doesn't want the guys to whimper briefly as they realise they're tacky props wanted only for their cocks, he wants the girls to be humiliated.

[Ocellatus]

we need more realistic situations, with deeper plots. when was the last time there was a porno involving a guy with below average genitals who becomes depressed and releases his anxiety through cheap hookers?

[Tweek]

yeah, but he's still a misogynist. he doesn't want the guys to whimper briefly as they realise they're tacky props wanted only for their cocks, he wants the girls to be humiliated.
why would he include guys in the fantasy? he is straight and it is a sexual fantasy after all

i just dont believe that his hate is directed at women just because they are women

[Dodger]

to be honest porn where the women are degraded and dominated is pretty hot,
even when it's just the guy behind the camera making them look like idiots, like on bangbus, it's pretty funny.

the shitting on them is kind of out there, but any guys who say they don't like it when the women are submissive are either lying or faggots

[RlSBOLLA]

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[opn4bzns]

mark me down as a faggot for not being a misogynist then

[opn4bzns]

not necessarily a misogynist actually, maybe just so insecure that you need to reaffirm your masculinity by seeing girls get abused.

[Dodger]

mark me down as a faggot

done a while ago

[Tweek]

i enjoy anyone getting abused
not hardcore tortured, just beaten up and shit
its only better with girls because they have tits and stuff

[opn4bzns]

why would he include guys in the fantasy? he is straight and it is a sexual fantasy after all

i just dont believe that his hate is directed at women just because they are women

alternatively because acknowledging the male means acknowledging the fact that he isn't humiliating the women himself, which would detract from his 'i am a big man' fantasies

[opn4bzns]

i enjoy anyone getting abused
not hardcore tortured, just beaten up and shit
its only better with girls because they have tits and stuff

this makes more sense with the dominance self-affirmation thing, i guess, but it's still different from the op in that he only mentions sexual stuff.

[Tweek]

well thats because he was posting about it on a porn forum

[Ocellatus]

i respect women and dislike the depiction of abuse against them, beacuse i'm a huge fag

[Tweek]

i respect women too and believe everyone is equal but just because someone isnt a white middle class protestant male doesnt mean i have to give an extra shit about them
thats something akin to discrimination in itself

just because a bitch is a bitch doesnt mean she is special

[Ocellatus]

society is still phalicentric in design, though, so it's refreshing to see women bing empowered

[opn4bzns]

sort of agree, but women are almost universally degraded in porn, which is pretty terrible for our attitudes towards sex

[opn4bzns]

society is still phalicentric in design, though, so it's refreshing to see women bing empowered

it doesn't have to be empowered, that is theoretically just as bad (although not really because they're still repressed, it's like white people bitching that they can't say nigger and black people can) , they should just be equal

[Laurence]

the problem is that the nature of sex involves a dominant/submissive dynamic. all that other stuff with turds on chests and beatings and gangbangs just take it beyond the natural level of misogyny

[opn4bzns]

it's like they've taken those to their extremes because they can't express any subtlety. either way the end product just looks like 'women are sluts and you should fuck them for your own satisfaction and nothing else' to every 13 year-old jerking off.

[Dodger]

i respect women and dislike the depiction of abuse against them, beacuse i'm a huge fag

I'm not saying I go around slapping bitches like it's my job
or that I would or have done shit like what that guy described to a woman
for the record, I have never nor would I ever shit on a woman

However, those chicks in porn aren't forced to do it, they willingly put them selves in a position to be shat upon, slapped around, abused and degraded for money. I find it funny. I wouldn't find it funny if it wasn't voluntary, but it is.
They aren't sex slaves or respectable women, they're just whores.
Whores getting slapped around is funny.

[Laurence]

They aren't sex slaves or respectable women, they're just whores.
Whores getting slapped around is funny.

a very, very good point

[opn4bzns]

you don't know they haven't been coerced into it though, or that they have to do it for the money. if you're watching any given porno, you really don't know if the girl is actually happy to be there, and they regularly don't look like they are.

[Dodger]

it's like they've taken those to their extremes because they can't express any subtlety. either way the end product just looks like 'women are sluts and you should fuck them for your own satisfaction and nothing else' to every 13 year-old jerking off.

And kids who actually think like that will never get laid.
There's a difference between porn and actual sex.
Chances are your girlfriend won't go ass-to-mouth or let you piss on her.
And I do think actual loving sex is supposed to be gratifying and loving for both parties.
Porn isn't actual loving sex.

If you actually think that kids watching porn will have abusive relationships then you're just as stupid as the people saying that playing GTA will make you shoot up your school.

I've watched porn since I've started getting boners and had an internet connection, and trust me my sex life is far from deviant.

[Dodger]

you don't know they haven't been coerced into it though, or that they have to do it for the money. if you're watching any given porno, you really don't know if the girl is actually happy to be there, and they regularly don't look like they are.

We have welfare, medicaid, community colleges, GED's, unemployment benefits.

Don't get me wrong, I'm as liberal as they come, and truly think we should go out of our way to help people down on their luck.

But there are plenty of other ways than volunteering to get shat upon and filmed, knowing that thousands of people will see it, to get help.

And some of these girls are actually into getting dominated.


And in the same way that I don't think about cows being butchered when I'm eating a burger, or kids being forced to work in sweatshops when I'm buying clothes, I don't think about the possible wrong turns a porn star has made in her life when I'm "normalizing my vector".

again, I don't masturbate to scat or any gross shit like that, but if you want to take up a cause, fight for Darfur or the Liberation of Tibet. Not chicks who sign themselves up to be degraded for money.

[opn4bzns]

If you actually think that kids watching porn will have abusive relationships then you're just as stupid as the people saying that playing GTA will make you shoot up your school.

good argument, because i think people who think gta=murderer are retarded. the problem is, porn's much more extreme. what you're seeing is real (obviously there's fantasy and acting, but it's presented as real), and it's intended to be so arousing that you masturbate to it. gta's a caricature of a million crime movies that's mostly meant to be fun, and it often mocks criminals and other bits of society.

[Dodger]

good argument, because i think people who think gta=murderer are retarded. the problem is, porn's much more extreme. what you're seeing is real (obviously there's fantasy and acting, but it's presented as real), and it's intended to be so arousing that you masturbate to it. gta's a caricature of a million crime movies that's mostly meant to be fun, and it often mocks criminals and other bits of society.

substitute GTA for R-rated movies then. My argument still stands.

especially since the acting in porn is absolutely horrible.

[Dodger]

Also, I apologize for calling you stupid and gay throughout this debate.
You put up valid points. I just assumed this would be another dumb spame argument and am surprised to see that it isn't.

I still think you're wrong, just not dumb or gay.

[RlSBOLLA]

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[BlackHood]

Best letter ever

[Vir]

where are these forementioned porn forums?

and I wonder if his want for having the woman truly understand and admit to her wretched position stems from his job where he makes people admit they are flawed before he can start changing their mind to fit a healthier one.

[LagFish]

you guys are silly, clearly he wasn't saying he was into the humiliation of womenh e was saying he doesnt like the whole chirade that women in porn put on he likes when he is aware that they are people too, with feelings and not just actors

hence talking about "moments of pain in there eyes before they say ima whore" or whatever

he just wants to see that theyre real girls

[Vir]

If you actually think that kids watching porn will have abusive relationships then you're just as stupid as the people saying that playing GTA will make you shoot up your school.

I've watched porn since I've started getting boners and had an internet connection, and trust me my sex life is far from deviant.

dodger its wonderful youre a well adjusted person and can differentiate between what happens on the internet and how life should work but there are many that after watching porn enough consider the things in it normal. Not like shitting in people's mouths but other things that certainly degrade the partner.

Oh and not that this is proof but just interesting, Ted Bundy cited porn as a major influence in his life and beginnings for how he ended up(source pending)

[Vir]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Bundy

right up there with torturing animals

He also told Lewis how his grandfather kept a large collection of pornography in his greenhouse where, according to relatives, Bundy and a cousin would sneak to look at it for hours.

In the Dobson interview before his execution, Bundy said that violent pornography played a major role in his sex crimes

I would keep looking for more potent, more explicit, more graphic kinds of material. Until you reach a point where the pornography only goes so far, you reach that jumping off point where you begin to wonder if maybe actually doing it would give that which is beyond just reading it or looking at it.

[opn4bzns]

bundy's an edge case though. it's bad that porn exacerbated his violent tendencies, but he's not your average person by any measure.

[Oofie]

if u watch porn u will b a serial killr obv

[Dodger]

Mark David Chapman also killed John Lennon because of The Catcher in the Rye

it happens to be my and many people's favorite novel

Well I watch porn, play GTA and read Catcher in the Rye, you guys will be able to say you e-knew me when I become a serial killer.

[Gilligan]

Dodger has issues verifying his own masculinity, itt.

[Vir]

I was saying bundy is certainly not a normal case just that it was an interesting note

[Ureshii]

rape and sexual abuse is funny guiz

[Dodger]

Dodger has issues verifying his own masculinity, itt.

I'll be the first to admit I'm not a masculine guy whatsoever

[Ocellatus]

i'm a wuss and i'd let a woman walk all over me if she felt like it

[BlackHood]

Porn gave me unrealistic expectations of women. Do you know how hard it is to find a (normal/nice) 18 year old girl who loves to swallow cum?

[Ocellatus]

that's why you go for 'em while they're still in high school

[BlackHood]

Theres nothing quite like the look of horror mixed with pride after a girl swallows for the first time. In fact that may even have been why Ifell for my last girlfriend

[azunder]

That's how i was ensnared by my last ex, once we started going out the BJ's stopped

[BmphP]

i shit on my wife once

[Quadros]

That's disgusting

it's 'shat' not 'shit' you fucking illiterate turd.